About Alice

I'm a part-time pediatrician and full-time mom of two boys and one girl.

This and That

IMG_3678Well, hello there. It’s been over a month since I’ve posted. Or since I’ve posted in reality (or is that posted in virtual reality). Whatever. I’ve had lots of posts in my mind that I’ve thought out but somehow I haven’t managed to get to the computer to type them out.

I decided to take a page from my friend Amy’s book and write a This and That post (she calls it Odds and Ends which is a better title but I don’t want to totally plagiarize from her). Hopefully that will get me back in the blogging saddle, so to speak.

So what have I  been doing other than blogging? Mostly swimming. Or to be more precise, mostly driving my kids to and from swim team practices and meets and social events. I took on a very big volunteer role this year with our summer team and it’s been a lot of fun but also a lot of work. As you can see from the photo, David’s ability to swim competitively might have been curtailed by his broken arm early in the summer but his ability to dress up in crazy costumes is completely intact. (It was Hawaiian theme day.)

The broken arm has also defined our summer in many ways. David did finally get aIMG_2067 waterproof cast after about three weeks in a
bulky very un-waterproof splint. The waterproof cast meant he could swim which was a big help to enjoying the summer as a family. However, he can’t dive which meant to competitive meets. That’s been a disappointment to him but he continues to adjust. The cast is now off but he has another three weeks of being super careful (no roller blading, biking, skateboarding, or other activities that might cause him to fall). And still no diving.

Meanwhile, the DC suburbs have morphed into the rainforest as we experienced the rainiest June in 43 years. Every swim meet we had involved rain of some kind, many with delays for thunder and lightening.

I had big plans for some IMG_0002gardening this summer but it seems it’s been either raining, about to rain or too hot to get much done. We’ve actually lost several plants to root rot from too much water. The sky might look pretty in that photo, but we haven’t seen many days like that.


I had a lot of other big plans for projects this summer. Organizing our storage area, especially the homeschool stuff. Working through AOPS Algebra. Listening to lots of the lectures from the WTM Conference. Walking 10,000 steps a day. Reading a lot. Blogging more often. A lot of it hasn’t gotten done (other than the reading, that always happens). That is partially due to swimming but if I am going to be honest with myself, it’s just as much due to my predilection for wasting time.  I still hope to get to some of those things in August and what’s left of July.

I have done some other things non-swim related. I’ve read some great books, some that I hope to blog about later this week. H. and I went with some good friends to hear The Punch Brothers at Wolftrap this past week. It was a virtually perfect concert. Fantastic music but also great seats and a lovely summer evening with cool breezes. (The weather did finally clear up for us that night).
DSCN9400aAll in all, a good summer so far, even if I haven’t completed my to-do list. Or even really scratched the surface of it. It’s good to be back here and I hope to be writing more regularly.


A bump in the road.

Our summer started off with a bang. Or maybe I should use John’s words, a giant “kerplop”. David broke his right arm in two places on May 31st roller-blading. We’re at Day 17 of the awkward, heavy, itchy, hot and very very non-waterproof plaster splint. Breaking your dominant arm anytime is hard. Breaking it when you are eight years old and it’s summer is even harder. Breaking it when you are eight years old and your summer revolves around swim team and being at the pool all day is even harder than that. Breaking your arm when you are the kind of kid who spends most of every day outside climbing trees, roller-blading, skateboarding, biking, and generally running amuck may be the hardest of all. It’s been a tough start to the summer, to say the least.

David is usually not a kid who deals well with frustration or disappointment. All our kids have strengths and things they need to work on. David is generous to a fault; several times I have had to forbid him from buying his sister presents at the store. He is sensitive and empathetic. He is loving and kind. He is quite funny and often wise in a way that surprises me. He is a peace-maker and rarely selfish. But usually he is someone whose day can be undone by a missing Lego piece or a thoughtless word from a sibling. I think this might be because he has such a strong sense of fairness and kindness that he can’t understand when the world isn’t being fair and everyone isn’t being kind.

I said he usually has a hard time dealing with frustration. This has not been one of those times. He has consistently astonished me with how well he is handling this fairly major hurdle in his summer plans. The orthopedist had originally said he could get a waterproof cast last week but when we went in to the appointment felt like he needed one more week in the splint to ensure proper healing. David broke down very briefly and then kind of shook it off (a la Taylor Swift) and moved on.

I realized that, as a parent, I want the best for my kids. I told David that I would have broken my arm for him if I could and I would do anything in my power to have him not have to go through this. However, I see how this experience is molding his character in a way that is good and that I think will bear much fruit in the future. Seeing him go through this has made me see how my natural desire is to smooth over every bump in the road , to solve every puzzle, to ensure that they don’t have to deal with disappointments  big or small, to banish mean kids and unfair coaches and rainy days from their lives. I know of course that I can’t do those things and part of me knows I shouldn’t. But oh, how I want to. I’m learning that my job as a parent isn’t so much to smooth over those bumps but to cheer them on as they navigate their way around them. In reality, the best thing for my kids isn’t always the easy road.


May Reading

So May turned out a lot like April: non-fiction and mysteries. I think I need to break out of this pattern for the summer.

Fiction Read in May: 

Sidney Chambers and the Problem of Evil by James Runcie
Similar to the first two in the series, these proved the perfect blend of cozy mystery, slightly deeper theological questions to ponder and lightish read in a busy season. 

The Noonday Friends by Mary Stolz
Read for Amy’s Newbery Challenge. This month was the 1960’s and was the first decade where I had already read a fair number of the honor and medalist books. I picked this one by Mary Stolz because I enjoyed her as a author as a kid. More of a character driven than plot-driven book, it deals with the issue of poverty in a NYC neighborhood.

Non-Fiction Read in May: 

The Secret Rescue: An Untold Story of American Nurses and Medics Behind Nazi Lines by Cate Lineberry
The story this book told was compelling: a medical transport plane that crashed in Albania during WWII and the subsequent survival and rescue of the nurses and medics who were on board. Unfortunately, although the events are compelling and should make for a fascinating read, the way the story is told kept the reader at a formal distance and never really drew me in. I think one reason was that there was no central figure to identify or empathize with. I couldn’t help but compare it to The Boys in the Boat, which also told the story of a team but through the eyes primarily of one central character. In this one I kept getting confused about who I was reading about and the book ended up feeling more like a dry description of events rather than a true adventure story.

The Road to Character by David Brooks

The Road to Character

David Brooks’ new book, The Road to Character was our latest book club selection. The main thrust of the book is the exploration of what Brooks calls “eulogy” virtues: kindness, generosity, patience, love, self-control, understanding, compassion. Brooks believes that most of us would rate those virtues higher than the “resume virtues” (ambition, hard-work, intelligence, self-sufficiency, success, power) but that the way we live our lives does not reflect that. Brooks says that each of us has an Adam I and Adam II side. Adam I is the driven, worldly, ambitious, career-oriented side. Adam II is the side interested in cultivating the eulogy virtues. This book is supposed to be about
celebrating those virtues and finding out how to become more of an Adam II in an Adam I world.

To that end, Brooks uses character studies of famous and not-so-famous people in history  to highlight different virtues. The character studies are all interesting to read. The strongest made me want to learn more about that person (Dorothy Day, George C. Marshall). Others were interesting but didn’t always seem to go with the overall flow of the book. An overall strength is that Brooks doesn’t hold these people up as icons. They are all flawed in some way and sometimes the very character trait that is their strongest point is also their weakest point. I found that refreshing in a culture that tends to idolize celebrities or see them as completely fallen. It was good to see these individuals treated as whole human beings.

Even more refreshing is that Brooks isn’t afraid to use the “s” word. That would be sin. It is virtually unheard of to read a non-Christian book and hear that word. Even more refreshing is how much he talks about the idea of grace. Much has been written in the media lately about Brooks’ religious faith and whether or not he has undergone a conversion. I won’t speculate here but I will say that as a Christian, there is a lot that resonates with my faith, in particular in the chapter on Augustine.

As a Christian, I found the biggest weakness in the book to be that Brooks seems to get so much of the concept of sin and grace but still seems to miss an essential part. He presents the idea that we are all made from “crooked timber” (sinners) and that we need grace in order to find our way to cultivating those eulogy virtues. But then he seems to fall back on the idea that somehow we can do it ourselves: try a little harder, be a little better, work more at being good. One of the women in my book club commented that in the end this was a very Adam I way of becoming an Adam II. I think that hit the nail on the head. He even has a “moral bucket list” form on his website for this book.

Now there is nothing wrong with trying to be better or trying to replace virtues like pride with humility. However, as a Christian, I believe that I can’t ever succeed on my own. Far from being depressing or hopeless, that is the thing that gives me hope. I struggle every day with countless small petty sins. Anger. Frustration. Impatience. Laziness. Selfishness. Every single resolution I have ever made to be better and tried to follow through on my own gets broken or twisted. It is only when I completely realize my need for grace that I can begin to be conformed by God into who I am meant to be.

So, a good book. One I’m glad I read. But one that ultimately left the most important part of the story missing.

April Reading

Fiction Read in April

Sidney Chambers and the Perils of the Night by James Runcie
Sidney Chambers and the Shadow of Death by James Runcie
Pressed on me by a friend who became a huge fan of the Grantchester mystery series after watching the adaptation on PBS (it came on right after Downton Abbey). She (the friend) guaranteed that these would be the perfect read during a stressful or busy time of life, and boy was she right. Sidney Chambers is a Church of England vicar who lives in a small town outside Cambridge after WWII and solves mysteries in his spare time. Each book contains 5 or 6 longish stand-alone mysteries. Each story can be read on it’s own but there is ongoing character development subplots that tie all the stories together. Chief among these are the two women that Sidney finds himself drawn to romantically and ultimately choosing between. These are perfectly charming cozy mysteries but what sets them apart is the main character’s occupation and musings on issues of a spiritual nature. Sidney often finds himself wondering if he is being true to his calling as a vicar by being distracted by his detective work. He also ponders topics like the existence of evil.

In the Company of Sherlock Holmes: Stories Inspired by the Holmes Canon edited by Laurie King and Leslie Klinger
This is the second collection of homes-inspired stories edited by King and Klinger and was just as much fun to read as the first one. There are stories that are re-writes of original Holmes stories, stories that modernize one of the familiar tales and stories where Holmes is only a peripheral figure.

Non-Fiction Read in Apri

The Boys in the Boat: Nine Americans and Their Epic Quest For Gold at the 1936 Berlin Olympics by Daniel James Brown
An amazing, inspirational story about a rowing crew team from the University of Washington in the 1930s. One of the best explorations of teamwork and what that really looks like that I have ever read. It will make you care about rowing the way Seabiscuit made you care about horse-racing. And even though you know the outcome from page 1 (spoiler…they win the gold) I found myself on the edge of my seat at times nervously reading to find out if one boy would make the team or whether they would win the big race.
Where You Go Is Not Who You’ll Be: An Antidote to the College Admissions Mania by Frank Bruni
We aren’t quite at the point of being swept up into college admissions mania, with our oldest child being a sixth grader. However, I know quite a few people navigating those scary waters. I found this book a refreshing look at college, however, I think it was probably written for a fairly limited audience. In fairness, Bruni is fairly clear about that early on. For those of us who live in large well-educated metropolitan areas it can seem like every one who know has a child applying to or accepted at an Ivy League school. It can feel like the ultimate validation of your educational and parenting choices is acceptance into one of a certain very small select number of colleges. This book is for those people. I also realized that although we live in that kind of area, we aren’t really those people. But it was still nice to read a book that was fairly reassuring about college and that promoted the idea that there are lots of good schools and the likelihood is that your child can get into a school somewhere that will be a good fit and a good experience for him.

That’s it for April. Turns out the theme was mysteries and non-fiction. Who knew? I am still participating in Amy’s Newbery Challenge but I chose to read my April selection (Gone Away Lake) out loud with the kids and we’re still working on it. We’re also reading Little House in the Big Woods and The Castle of Llyr and still loving listening to The Sisters Grimm series in the car.

Read Aloud Thursday: From the New Shelf

We read a lot of picture books, although less than we used to and less than I wish we did. Today I have to share a small, somewhat random sample of some recent finds from our library’s new shelf that we have enjoyed. The first, Penguins in Peril, finds a penguin the unwilling captive of three dastardly cats. The cats have spent all their money on movies instead of food and craft. They come up with a plan to perpetrate the most daring robbery of all time and get all the fishes they want. But first they need a secret weapon: the penguin. The penguin outwits them in the end and the cat’s plan is thwarted. A first book by Helen Hancocks, this one definitely takes a dry sense of humor to appreciate. The somewhat flat text and graphically simple illustrations have a certain plain-Jane charm. My kids liked it when reading it the first time but I haven’t seen them reading it again on their own or seeking it out for second or third readings.

On the other end of the spectrum from the conniving cats in Penguins in Peril, is Sarah Weeks’ Glamourpuss, the title character in what can best be described as the Fancy Nancy of the feline world. Glamourpuss is, well, glamorous. The most glamorous pet ever. But then Bluebell, a tiny toy dog, comes to visit. Bluebell wears fancy clothes: hoopskirts and tiaras and fruit-covered turbans. Bluebell dances and does tricks. Glamourpuss starts to doubt herself. Then however, Bluebell tears up all her fancy clothes and Glamourpuss realizes that maybe there is room for two fabulous pets in the same house. David Small’s (one of my favorite illustrators) humorous illustrations are a perfect paring for this quirky and sweet story.

And for my last offering, we go back to simple, at least in concept. Mac Barnett’s Telephone takes the game of telephone and imagines how it would go as played by birds on a wire. The concept is simple but the execution is picture perfect. The message gets more and more garbled. Illustrator Jen Corace’s birds tell a story of their own as each bird changes the message according to his own job or hobby.

One reason we don’t read as many picture books as I might like is that with older kids, we spend more time reading chapter books. Chapter books are great fun as well to read, and I love our nightly “special book” time. But I think too often parents think that once their kids are old enough to move on to reading “big books” that the time for picture books is over. I recently discovered that my sixth grader still reads every picture book I bring home from the library on his own. It makes me happy that he doesn’t feel too old to enjoy what some kids might feel are books just for little kids.

Stop by Hope is the Word for Read Aloud Thursday and share what you family is reading together.

A Spring Wetlands Walk

IMG_1757 IMG_1772 IMG_1789 IMG_1801 IMG_1887 IMG_1906Friday proved to be too beautiful of a day to stay inside and “do school”. We made the spontaneous decision to go to one of our favorite places and enjoy the day. Spotted: many frogs, snapping turtles, red-winged blackbirds, swallows, cardinals, geese. The coolest thing was perhaps the several sacs of frog eggs that John recognized.


March Reading (The better-late-than-never edition)

Fiction Read in March: 

Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty
Moriarty’s books are big, fun, juicy, frothy delicious reads. The women in them feel familiar to me even though they are Australian and inhabit a more upper-class world than my own. The overall subject of the book (domestic abuse and bullying) is serious but Moriarty manages to write about it in a way that is engaging to read and light in tone without making light of the horror of her topic. 

The Children Act by Ian McEwan
McEwan on the other hand could never be called light. Or frothy. I think I’m going to have to face the fact that I will never love a book of his as much as I loved Atonement. I keep reading him waiting for that completely blown-away by a book experience again and it hasn’t happened yet. Some of his books I’ve greatly disliked, this one I did enjoy reading except for one part that just didn’t ring true to me. The story is of a judge who is in the midst of a personal domestic crisis and who must render judgment on a case involving a minor’s right to refuse medical treatment. The boy is dying of cancer and needs a blood transfusion but is a Jehovah’s witness. The book is very much about the conflict between science and religion. 

The Dead in Their Vaulted Arches by Alan Bradley
Another wonderful chapter in the Flavia deLuce series. This one must be read after the others, it ties up lots of loose ends from previous books. 

The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins
I stayed up way too late on several nights reading this book. It’s that kind of book; what I’ve heard called a “thumping good read”. I read a fair amount of mysteries and thrillers so I guessed the solution to this one pretty early on but it still kept me turning the pages to see if I was right and to yell at the characters to figure it out before something bad happened. 

Strawberry Girl by Lois Lenski

Non-Fiction Read in March:

Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodson
Really beautiful memoir told in verse. It’s won a bunch of awards and all deservedly so. 

Red Madness: How a Medical Mystery Changed What We Eat by Gail Jarrow
I hope to review this one in full one day, but it’s a well-written detailed account of the investigation into the cause of pellagra, a disease that effected millions of people in the United States in the early 20th century and is estimated to have killed about 100,000 people. I loved reading Bernard Rouche’s classic books about true medical mysteries when I was a teen and would have been the kid who ate this book up when I was in middle school. A wonderful addition to the young adult nonfiction section of any library. 

Fierce Convictions: The Extraordinary Life of Hannah More–Poet, Reformer, Abolitionist by Karen Prior Swallow
Read for my book club, I had really high hopes for this one. Hannah More was an amazing woman and I thoroughly enjoyed the other book I’d read by Karen Prior Swallow.  This one fell a little short of expectations, however. It’s a bit dry and somehow makes More’s life seem a bit dull, which it was anything but dull. I would recommend it though for the chance to learn more about More, a truly remarkable woman. 

Two New Picture Books

 Jim Aylesworth’s My Grandfather’s Coat is a sweet retelling of a traditional Yiddish folktale. In this version, a young man comes to America and works as a tailor. For his wedding day, he makes himself a beautiful overcoat. Over the years the coat becomes worn out, but he doesn’t ever throw it away. Instead he finds new uses for it until there is only enough thread left for a mouse to use to make a nest. It’s a great story about resourcefulness and recycling. We’ve read and enjoyed Simms Taback’s version of this story, Joseph Had a Little Overcoat  (a Caldecott winner). I liked this new version even more mostly because of Barbara McClintocks’s illustrations. Jim Aylesworth tells the story from the perspective of the granddaughter of the man. At the end of the book you realize she is telling it to her own baby. The delicate yet detailed illustrations tell the story of the family while the text tells the story of the coat. We see the great-grandfather arrive in America, meet his bride, marry, work hard, have a child and then that child grow up.

The second book that was a recent hit at our house was also illustrated by Barbara McClintock. Where’s Mommy? by Beverly Donofrio tells the story of Maria (a human girl) and Mouse Mouse (a mouse girl) who are trying to go to bed but can’t find their mothers. Maria and Mouse Mouse live in the same house and are friends but think that their friendship is a secret from the rest of the family. As they hunt for their mothers the illustrations show their parallel lives. The charm is definitely in the detailed illustrations, especially of the Mouse world. The sort-of surprise ending is also charming. Apparently, this is a companion to an earlier, unknown to us book, Mary and the Mouse, the Mouse and Mary by the same author-illustrator pair.

And as a side note, if you are a biology major, Barbara McClintock,the illustrator, is not the same as Barbara McClintock the Nobel prize-winning corn cytogeneticist. Everytime I see the name I do a double take and part of me thinks “Wow! That is one talented lady!” Although Barbara McClintock the illustrator is pretty darn talented without the cytogenetics. Take a peek at her website if you aren’t familiar with her work.